10 Tips For Choosing Your Wedding Style

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Choosing a style or theme for your wedding is one of the first things you will have to think about when it comes to planning your big day. For some it will be the easiest thing in the world but for others it may seem like an impossible task. To get you started and (hopefully) make  things a little bit easier here are 10 top tips for choosing your perfect wedding style.


1. List your favourite things

This may seem obvious but start off by thinking about all of the things you love. Sit down separately and come up with a list of your favourite colours, books, films, music, holidays, flowers, hobbies etc, etc. Next write down your least favourite things and compare. There may be something that immediately jumps out such as a mutual love of Harry Potter or the fact you both hate the colour yellow. Don’t worry if you’re struggling to find common ground, shortlist a few from each list (and be clear on what you definitely don’t want) and look at how you could make different elements work together.


2. Do your research!

Pinterest is a great place to start to get the creative juices flowing, blogs and wedding mags will also give you loads of ideas for how you   might want your wedding to look. Rather than just looking at weddings or styled photoshoots though, try and think outside the box, look at interiors, architecture, fashion. Inspiration is all around so the next time you are out somewhere, look around and think about how you could incorporate art, decor, furnishings or even nature into the design of your wedding. For example, if you just love the extravagant wallpaper in your favourite restaurant, could you perhaps use a similar print on fabric used as table runners or create a fabulous backdrop for your cake table?



3. Consider your budget

Try and work out how much of your budget you want to dedicate to styling. It’s very easy to find yourself down a Pinterest rabbit hole, dreaming of your perfect wedding but does your budget stretch to your dream day? Try and use your inspiration as just that, inspiration, rather than trying to copy every little detail of a wedding that’s already happened. Apart from anything else, it’s your day, why would you want it to be exactly the same as someone elses? Take elements of what you like and try and find a way of creating the same sort of style but one that fits within your budget and one which is more personal to you both.


4. Is it practical? Is it achievable?

When working out the styling element of your wedding, it is essential that you check whether it’s possible to do all the things you want to do. For example, some venues do not allow the use of candles, if this is the case and your styling plan includes lots of them, then you may have to consider using LED candles or changing your design accordingly. You will need to determine whether everything in your plan is permitted at the venue, can fit in the venue and whether it is practical. The last thing you want is the get to the day itself and find out half of what you had planned cannot be done, so plan ahead!



5. Make sure your style suits your venue

Choosing a venue will probably be one of the first things you do when planning your wedding. There will be lots of things you consider when doing so, the size, location, facilities, views, price to name a few. Another factor you should consider is how it will lend itself to styling. What is the overall style of the decor used within the venue? What colours are used? If you have a colour scheme in mind, will it work with the venue’s colour scheme?  Generally, venues with more modern, contemporary or neutral decor can lend themselves to a wider variety of styles. Older venues such as stately homes tend to have more distinct designs with colours, patterns and prints which may be more difficult to work with.


6. Make it personal

The most memorable of weddings are those that truly reflect the couple, their likes and personalities. When looking at your styling plans, do they say anything about you as a couple or as individuals? is there anything in your wedding that guests will instantly recognise as being related to you? It could be something as simple as a favourite colour or favourite type of flower or it could be something related to your jobs or hobbies. Little personal touches are what will make your wedding stand out and remembered by guests for years to come.

7. Be true to yourselves

We’ve already talked about personalising your wedding. One thing you should bear in mind when doing this is to make sure you stay true to who you are. Imagine choosing a ‘Peaky Blinders’ theme for your wedding because it’s popular, you like the style and you think it will make you look cool when you’ve never actually watched a single episode of the show and probably never will. This isn’t really reflecting you as a couple, you would be choosing a theme because it’s trendy. Instead why not choose a vintage style from the same era rather than go for a specific theme. Your wedding day is something you will (hopefully) want to look back on and remember for years to come, choose wisely!


8. Sometimes, less is more

When choosing your style or theme, it can be tempting to go completely overboard and have matching EVERYTHING or shoehorn your theme into every single element. If that’s the kind of couple you are and that’s what you want, go for it! Your wedding day should reflect you both after all. But if you prefer a more subtle approach, just choose certain elements to convey a theme. If you are going for an ‘Alice In Wonderland’ theme for example, you don’t have to have pictures of Alice adorning everything from the invitations to the cake, you could opt instead for a really elegant design with florals and greenery and add little nods to Alice in the form of a cake topper, a quote written in in calligraphy on a backdrop and macaroon favours with ‘eat me’ tags on. Your guests will understand the theme but the overall style will be classy and elegant rather than resembling a kids birthday party (again if that’s what you’re aiming for, do it!)



9. Don’t be afraid to mix things up

Deciding on your wedding style or theme can prove difficult if you both have very different tastes. If you’re struggling to come up with something you both agree on, why not have a mixture? The trick to doing this successfully is to come up with an overall style which is fairly neutral and then add elements of different styles or themes. This is a great way of incorporating both of your tastes and avoids a falling out before you’ve even got married!


10. Consider calling in the professionals!

Many couples today choose to do their own styling mainly because they see it as a way of cutting costs and because they want to put their own stamp on their wedding. Although hiring a wedding stylist doesn’t generally come cheap, there are many benefits in doing so. If you choose to do your own styling, you are going to have to spend time working out a design plan and sourcing all the props, decor etc needed. A stylist will have vast experience of doing so, will have creative talent and be up on current trends, they will probably be able to suggest things you would never have thought of and will know where to get all the best props and decor items from. Money wise, yes you will have to pay the stylist for their time as well as the items you hire but going it alone you are going to have to buy the items anyway which may not work out all that much cheaper. You will then have to decide what to do with it all afterwards, you could give it away, keep it, sell it or hire it out yourselves. The biggest consideration around a DIY wedding is time. Who exactly is going to style the wedding and when are they going to do it? How long is it going to take? Have you ever had to decorate 100 chairs? It takes a long time! Time you could be spending relaxing or spending time with your family prior to the big day. A stylist will take away a lot of the stress and free up valuable time and will do a professional job making your venue look amazing.



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Creator of A Stylish Marriage, I completed a Diploma in Wedding Planning, Styling and Design after a career in Nursing. I have always had a love of weddings and wanted to explore my creative side a bit more. My aim with the blog is to inspire and guide couples as they embark on their wedding planning journey.

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